Everyone talks about love, reads about love,
watches movies about love, listens to songs about love.
A lot of people write and have written about love,
sing and have sung about love,
preach and teach about love.
I don’t want to preach, but please,
let me also try to write about love.
My personal understanding of love.
So, first of all, there is a huge difference between falling in love and loving someone.
Falling in love is easy and fun.
It is mostly based on physical attraction,
leads to hormones going crazy,
and releases butterflies into your stomach.
I think, I have fallen in love with over a hundred people in my life.
I was in love with falling in love.
Especially as a young girl, but also later, becoming a woman.
First boys, then men, and even some amazing women made my knees go squashy.
But love is different.
Love is not always easy and fun.
Love is work, hard work sometimes.
I have loved only a couple of men in my life
(excluding my children and other family members).
Everyone’s understanding of love is different of course
and it also changes over time…
…with age and experience,
as change our needs, hopes, goals and tastes.
So, I am not trying to stat what I have learned about love in the past years,
but more I would like to give you an insight into my personal meaning of love,
at my current situation, at this moment, today, April 6, 2017.
For me…
Love is maintaining the connection you established while falling in love.
Love is being a team, without forgetting how to be individuals.
Love is commitment. A commitment to constantly work on a relationship
and not promising unrealistic outcomes.
Love is paying attention to little things, small changes and tiny gestures.
Love is not taking anything or anyone for granted.
Love is loving someone even more when seeing how much love they have for others.
Love is forgiving the other falling asleep during a Star Wars movie.
Love is being comfortable in silence together, but also passionate and loud.
Love is the need of hugging or touching the other while sleeping, no matter how uncomfortable the position.
Love is overlooking or even smiling about certain flaws and accepting that they don’t need to be changed.
And…once in a life time…
Love is breaking the other’s heart, but instead of walking away, love is, staying and holding all the broken pieces.
Love is tough and difficult,
but also beautiful and nourishing for the soul.
But mainly…
Love is a choice.
A choice we make every day anew, over and over again.
And today, I anew, choose you.
xanderi 